Over the next few days, I kept things normal. I made his coffee just the way he liked it. I packed his lunch. I smiled when he came home from work and listened to him complain about his day. But inside? I was done.
That night, after putting our baby to sleep, I opened my laptop. If Tyler thought I wasn’t worth investing in, I would invest in myself.
I searched for remote jobs, anything I could do from home until I could afford proper work clothes. I updated my resume, reached out to old colleagues, and by the next week, I had landed a freelance position in marketing. It wasn’t much at first, but it was something. It was mine.
Tyler barely noticed. He assumed I was just scrolling social media like usual.
A month later, I got my first payment. It wasn’t huge, but it was enough to buy myself two professional outfits. I didn’t tell him. I just hung them up in the closet and kept working.
By the third month, my income had doubled. I was making almost as much as Tyler. That’s when I stopped cooking every single meal. Stopped picking up after him like I was his maid. Stopped waiting for his approval.
He noticed then.
“Why isn’t dinner ready?” he asked one evening, walking into the kitchen to find me on my laptop.
“I was working,” I said, barely looking up.
His eyebrows furrowed. “Working? Doing what?”
I leaned back, stretched, and smiled. “Marketing. Freelance. Turns out, there are plenty of companies willing to pay for my skills.”
His face twisted in confusion. “Wait. You got a job?”
“Yes.”
He scoffed. “But you don’t even have office clothes.”
I let out a small laugh. “You’re right. So I got a job where I don’t need them.”
His jaw clenched. “You should have told me.”
“Why? So you could tell me to quit? Tell me it’s too expensive for me to work?” I shook my head. “No, Tyler. I don’t need your permission.”
From that moment, the balance shifted.
As I kept growing, my confidence returned. I started taking better care of myself—not for him, but for me. I bought clothes that made me feel good. I made time for friends. I even started saving money.
One day, Tyler came home to find me dressed up. I was meeting a client in person for the first time.
“Where are you going?” he asked, his voice tight.
“To work,” I said simply.
He scoffed. “You’re acting different lately.”
“No, Tyler. I’m just acting like someone who knows her worth.”
That night, I realized something: I didn’t need Tyler. And maybe, just maybe, I didn’t want him either.
The final straw came a few weeks later. I landed a huge contract—one that paid more than Tyler’s salary. I was ecstatic, but when I told him, he didn’t congratulate me.
Instead, he frowned. “So what, now you think you’re better than me?”
That’s when I knew. He never saw me as his partner—just as someone to take care of him.
I took a deep breath. “No, Tyler. I don’t think I’m better than you. But I do think I deserve better than this.”
And with that, I made my choice.
I found a new place, packed my things, and left. It wasn’t easy, but it was worth it.
Today, I run my own business. I work on my terms. And most importantly? I no longer ask for permission to invest in myself.
The lesson? Never let anyone make you feel like you’re not worth the effort. If they won’t invest in you, invest in yourself.
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