This is a pic of the room after my husband’s best friend, Alex, had been crashing at our home for weeks. I seriously CAN’T EVEN EXPLAIN the smell—it was disgusting! Alex was doing renovations at his place, so my husband told him he could stay with us.
Since then, it’s been NOTHING but video games and parties for those two, while I’ve been stuck cleaning up after them. Gosh, I was feeling totally ignored. When I finally got a minute alone with my husband, I called him out—but he just shrugged it off.
“Oh, don’t be such a downer! You just can’t handle not being the center of attention. It’s just one more room to clean, no big deal!”
NO BIG DEAL?! That’s when I decided to show him exactly what NOT A BIG DEAL really looks like!
THE PLAN
I stopped cleaning. That’s right. If it wasn’t my mess, I wasn’t touching it. Plates? Left on the table. Empty beer bottles? Piling up. Socks? Scattered across the floor like some frat house apocalypse.
At first, they didn’t even notice. Alex kept lounging on the couch, and my husband was just as bad. I’d walk past the mess, humming happily to myself, pretending I didn’t see or smell a thing.
Then, it started to hit. The mountain of dishes in the sink. The sticky floors. The couch covered in crumbs. The bathroom? Don’t even get me started.
After about a week, Alex groaned, “Dude, your house is getting nasty.”
And what did my dear husband say? “Yeah, man. I don’t know what’s up with her, but she’s slacking.”
SLACKING?! I almost burst out laughing. Oh, sweetie, you haven’t even seen slacking yet.
ESCALATION
I doubled down. Not only did I stop cleaning, but I also started contributing to the chaos. A little ketchup spill on the counter? Whoops, I’ll clean it up later (spoiler: I didn’t). A pile of unfolded laundry? Guess it’s part of the decor now.
Alex started dropping hints. “Maybe we should hire a maid or something.”
And that’s when I knew it was working.
Then, one glorious night, my husband reached for a plate to eat his takeout, and there were none left. Not a single clean dish. He groaned and turned to me. “Babe, we’re out of plates.”
“Oh, are we? Huh.” I pretended to think. “I guess someone will have to wash them.”
He gave me that look—the one that said he finally understood he was in trouble. “Come on, just help me out a little?”
“No big deal, right?” I shot back, using his own words. “It’s just a few dishes. Not like it’s hard.”
Alex snickered. “Dude, just wash them. I don’t know why she’s being so dramatic.”
Oh, that was it. That was my breaking point.
THE FINAL STRAW
I stood up, walked over to my husband, and calmly handed him my phone. “Since I’m being so dramatic, let’s make it official.”
He blinked. “What?”
“Let’s hire a cleaner.”
He scoffed. “We don’t need—”
“Oh, but we do,” I cut him off. “Because I’m done. Done cleaning up after two grown men who act like teenagers. Done being treated like a maid. So, either you two step up and clean, or we hire someone.”
Alex shifted uncomfortably. “I mean, it’s not that bad…”
“Fine,” I said with a shrug. “Then you guys can deal with it yourselves.”
And with that, I left. Grabbed my purse, walked out, and spent the day treating myself to a spa and dinner.
THE WAKE-UP CALL
When I came home, it was chaos. The smell hit me first—like old takeout and regret. The sink was STILL full. My husband and Alex looked like two lost puppies.
My husband sighed. “Alright. You win.”
“Excuse me?”
“I said you win.” He rubbed his neck. “I get it. We’ve been jerks. We’ll clean.”
I raised an eyebrow. “Both of you?”
Alex groaned. “Yeah, yeah, I’ll do my part.”
And you know what? They did. It took them all night, but they scrubbed, washed, and even lit a candle to try and fix the smell.
THE LESSON
From then on, things changed. Alex stopped treating our home like a free Airbnb. My husband actually started helping around the house. And me? I got a well-deserved break.
Moral of the story? Sometimes, the best way to make someone appreciate you is to stop doing everything for them. Let them see what life looks like without your effort, and watch how quickly they learn.
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