It was supposed to be two weeks. That’s what my husband said when his dad needed “a place to crash” while his apartment building dealt with some mold issue.

I didn’t even argue at first. I liked Andrew’s dad. He always seemed chill when we visited him—told long stories, made great coffee. But I should’ve known. People act differently in their own space versus yours.

First red flag? He moved all my plants. Every. Single. One. Said the “feng shui was off.” Then he took down the framed print in the hallway and replaced it with a photo of his late wife. Which would’ve been sweet… if he’d asked.

He also started making dinner every night without checking in. You’d think that sounds helpful, right? Except he doesn’t ask what we want, and he uses every pot we own. The kitchen looks like a cooking show exploded every time.

But the weirdest part? He’s taken over our living room. Like fully claimed it. Rearranged the furniture, moved the remotes, put a throw blanket on my reading chair. I walked in one morning to find him meditating in the middle of the rug with incense burning.

When I brought it up to Andrew, he just shrugged and said, “It’s not forever.”

Except last night, I overheard his dad on the phone saying something about “settling in” and how “the energy here is much better than that old place.”

I don’t know what Andrew promised him.

But I just found a copy of our house key on the kitchen counter—with his name on a little label tag.

I felt my jaw tighten as I held that key, the label’s edges already worn, like he’d had it made weeks ago. My mind raced. How much longer could I put up with my living room being a yoga studio? How many more nights could I endure dinners made from ingredients I didn’t recognize, dishes piled to the ceiling?

I decided to confront Andrew again, this time with a no-nonsense approach. After dinner, when his dad had retreated to “recalibrate his energy” in the living room, I set the key on the table between us.

“Andrew, what is this?” I asked, my voice steady, though my heart pounded in my chest.

He glanced down at the key and then back at me. “Oh, I meant to tell you. Dad’s lease was up. He figured it’d be easier to stay here until he finds a new place.”

I blinked. “And when exactly was he planning on doing that?”

“He didn’t say exactly…” Andrew trailed off, looking sheepish.

“This was supposed to be two weeks,” I reminded him. “It’s been almost two months. He’s acting like this is his house.”

“He doesn’t mean to take over,” Andrew said quickly. “He’s just—he’s used to doing things his way. And he’s, uh, comfortable here.”
“Yeah,” I said dryly. “I noticed.”

I gave it one more week. I tried being patient, letting him have his rituals, his meals, his home-improvement projects (yes, he started installing shelves). But when I walked into the bathroom one morning and found my carefully curated bath products replaced by “earth-friendly alternatives” he’d ordered online, I knew I’d reached my limit.

That night, I asked to speak to both of them—Andrew and his dad—at the kitchen table.

“Look,” I began, trying to keep my tone even. “I appreciate that you’re comfortable here. Really, I do. But we need to have some boundaries. This is our home, and I need to feel like it’s still ours.”

Andrew’s dad smiled that warm, slightly sheepish smile of his. “Of course, dear. I didn’t mean to impose. It’s just that this place has such wonderful energy. I lost track of time, I suppose.”

I gave a thin smile. “I understand. But I’d like to have a date in mind. When do you think you’ll start looking for a new place?”

“Well, I was thinking,” he said, looking at Andrew. “Maybe I could help you two out around here a bit longer. Do some repairs, redecorate…”

“No,” I said, gently but firmly. “We need to start making a plan for you to move on.”

Andrew shot me a grateful look. His dad nodded slowly, realizing the conversation was serious.

“All right,” he said. “I’ll start looking this weekend.”

It wasn’t easy. There were a few more awkward weeks as he made arrangements. But true to his word, he found a small, quiet apartment in a nearby neighborhood. On his last day, he packed his few boxes into Andrew’s car, then turned to me and said, “Thanks for putting up with me. I didn’t mean to shake things up so much. I hope you know it came from a place of love.”
I smiled. “I do. But it’ll be nice to have our space back.”

When we got home, Andrew and I sat on our rearranged couch, sipping the coffee his dad had left behind. “That was tough,” he said, “but I think it was the right thing to do.”

“Definitely,” I agreed. “He’s happy in his own place now, and we can finally breathe.”

The experience taught me something I didn’t expect. Sometimes, love means setting boundaries—not just for your own sanity, but for the good of the relationship. As much as it pained me to push him out, it reminded me that creating a healthy space for everyone involved is one of the best ways to keep love and respect intact. It’s not always about accommodating every request or tolerating every intrusion. Sometimes, it’s about finding the balance between giving and holding onto what’s yours.

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