But I wasn’t—because I had never truly left them.

Not a single day had passed without me thinking of Andrew’s sleepy goodnight hugs or Dorothy’s giggles when I made her favorite pancake bears. I might not have been under the same roof as them, but I was still their mother. I still packed their weekend bags with snacks and notes. I still called to remind Alexander of their doctor appointments and gently suggested bedtime routines when I noticed the kids were crankier than usual.

So when he called, drained and frustrated, telling me to “take them back,” something inside me—something fierce and protective—woke up.

I didn’t yell. I didn’t shame him. I just said, “Okay. I’ll be there tonight.”

I took a half-day from work and took the train straight to Valencia. I picked them up from school like I used to. Dorothy ran to me with her arms stretched wide, yelling, “Mommy!” while Andrew, now a little older and trying to be “cool,” gave me a side-hug but wouldn’t stop smiling.

When we got back to Alexander’s apartment, he barely looked me in the eye. He had a suitcase already packed with their clothes, toys, even the crayon drawings on the fridge. I saw the tiredness in his face, the deep bags under his eyes, and the way his once-immaculate living room was scattered with mismatched socks and sippy cups.

“Are you sure about this?” I asked.

“I can’t do it anymore,” he replied. “They need someone who actually wants to be a parent full-time.”

That one stung more than I thought it would, because I had wanted that all along. I just hadn’t had the means.

Still, I didn’t argue. I just nodded, thanked him quietly, and brought our kids home—with me.

The first few weeks were chaotic. I hadn’t truly grasped what it meant to be a full-time, working, single mother of two. My mornings started before sunrise, preparing breakfast, school lunches, and dodging spilled juice. Work was demanding, and so was helping with homework in the evenings. Dorothy developed a habit of crawling into my bed at 3 a.m., and Andrew needed someone to listen to him vent about bullies and math class.

I cried a lot in the bathroom those first few nights—not because I regretted it, but because it was overwhelming. But also…because it felt right. I wasn’t just visiting my kids anymore. I was mothering them again.

One night, Andrew sat next to me on the couch while Dorothy was already asleep.

“Mom,” he said, twiddling with the sleeve of his hoodie, “can I tell you something?”

“Of course.”

He paused, looked down, and whispered, “I missed you every day. Even when I didn’t say it. I thought you didn’t want us anymore.”

My heart cracked. I hugged him tight and whispered back, “I never stopped wanting you. I just didn’t want to bring you into my storm while I figured things out.”

Months went by. I adjusted. We all did.

I started cooking dinner with Dorothy standing on a chair beside me, her little hands helping me wash rice or mix pancake batter. Andrew took on the role of her big protector, reading to her when I had to work late or checking if her favorite stuffed elephant was in bed before she fell asleep.

And here’s the funny part: Alexander barely called. He sent gifts on birthdays and the occasional “hope the kids are okay” text, but that was it. No more parenting advice, no questions about bedtimes or fevers. It was as if he’d taken a deep breath the day he handed them off and never looked back.

For a long time, I was angry about that. But eventually, I stopped being surprised. And I stopped letting it control how I felt.

Because I was doing it.

I was building something beautiful out of what broke me.

A year later, something unexpected happened.

I was called in for a school meeting—Andrew had written an essay that had apparently caught the attention of his teacher and even the principal. I arrived a little nervous, expecting it to be about something he did wrong.

But instead, his teacher handed me the printed essay and said, “We think you should read this.”

It was titled: The Strongest Person I Know.

And it was about me.

He wrote about how I’d worked hard after the divorce, how I made “magic breakfasts” on weekends, and how I always made time—even when I had none. He mentioned how I picked him up when no one else could, stayed up with him when he had nightmares, and taught him how to keep going when life was unfair.

I read it sitting in that plastic chair, trying so hard not to cry in front of the school staff. But I couldn’t help it. Not because I was proud—though I was—but because I finally knew my kids had seen me, really seen me, through everything.

Looking back now, I don’t resent Alexander anymore. Parenting isn’t for everyone, and maybe he thought he could handle it, but life showed him otherwise. And while I still believe his choices hurt our children in ways he might never understand, I’m grateful that I got the chance to be their steady place.

If I had forced custody in court, I might have struggled worse, maybe even resented the weight. But when life gave me the second chance—when it placed their little suitcases back in my hallway—I was ready.

To anyone out there who’s had to make the hard choice: trust yourself.

Sometimes, loving your kids means stepping back. Sometimes, it means stepping up later. What matters is showing up again—and again—and making sure they know they’re worth every late night, every tear, and every sacrifice.

Because one day, they’ll write about you. Maybe not with a pen and paper, but in how they love others, how they raise their own kids, and how they learn to stay strong when life doesn’t go as planned.

And that? That’s the most rewarding thing of all.

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