My mom passed away two years ago. My dad started dating Sarah, who’s way too young for him, and they’re getting married now. Sarah wants to wear my mom’s vintage wedding dress. I refused, and my dad called me “selfish.” The next day, I froze when I saw that she had it laid out on their bed, veil and all, like it was already hers.

I couldn’t even speak at first. My chest locked up. She must’ve gone into the attic and taken it while I was at work. That dress wasn’t just lace and silk—it was my mom. It had her scent, her laughter, her memory sewn into every stitch. She wore it when she married my dad at City Hall, before they had a dime to their name. I remember her telling me how she’d found it secondhand and how she’d hemmed it herself. She said, “It’s not perfect, but it’s mine.”

Now it was on Sarah’s bed. Not ours. Not mine. Sarah’s.

I walked in and quietly picked it up. The hanger still had the ribbon Mom had tied to it. Sarah came out of the bathroom, full face of makeup, hair done, wearing one of Mom’s old silk robes like she owned the place. She gave me this smug little smirk and said, “Oh! I figured I’d just try it on. You know, just to see. I didn’t want to bother you again.”

My hands tightened around the hanger. “You didn’t bother asking the first time either,” I said.

“It’s just a dress,” she shrugged, sipping some sparkling water like this wasn’t a big deal.

“It’s not just a dress,” I snapped. “It’s hers. And you knew that.”

Sarah set down her glass, looked at me like I was some tragic little girl stuck in the past. “Your mom’s gone, sweetheart. Maybe it’s time you let go.”

I walked out before I said something I’d regret. But in my car, I cried until my throat hurt. Not just for the dress—but for the dad I didn’t recognize anymore.

See, my dad used to be grounded. Quiet. Practical. He taught me how to build furniture with my hands, how to check the oil in my car, how to use a level so shelves wouldn’t tilt. Now he’s acting like some midlife bachelor, wearing linen shirts and listening to EDM. I swear, he started using self-tanner.

When I confronted him later that night, he didn’t apologize. He just sighed, like I was a burden, and said, “You need to grow up, Maika. Life moves on.”

I didn’t talk to either of them for three weeks.

Then the wedding invites went out.

Cream envelopes. Gold foil. A fancy venue two towns over. My name was on the guest list, but no mention of the maid-of-honor spot I’d once half-joked about when Mom was still alive. I wasn’t even asked to give a speech.

But you know what broke me?

I saw a sneak peek of the wedding vision board Sarah made on Pinterest—public by accident. She’d posted a photo of my mom’s wedding dress under “Aesthetic Inspo.” The caption? “Vintage chic, pre-loved, sentimental touch!” Like it was some thrift-store gem she found in a bin. No mention of who it belonged to. No mention of my mom.

That’s when I made a decision.

I wasn’t going.

But before I could send my regrets, something strange happened. I got a message on Instagram. From someone named Lianne Ko. I didn’t recognize the name, but she said:

“Hi Maika. I hope this isn’t weird. I knew your mom—sort of. I think we need to talk.”

My stomach flipped.

I called her the next day. Lianne was soft-spoken, nervous, maybe in her mid-forties. She told me she used to work with my mom at a nonprofit for foster kids in the early 2000s. Said my mom had mentored her through a rough patch.

“I owe her everything,” she said. “She helped me get sober. Helped me get custody of my daughter back. I just found out she passed. I’m so sorry.”

I didn’t know any of that. Mom never talked much about her early nonprofit days.

But then Lianne said something that made my skin go cold.

“She gave me something once,” she said. “Years ago. A box. She said, ‘If anything ever happens to me, and my daughter forgets who I really was… give her this.’”

I sat in silence.

“Your mom left you something,” Lianne said. “And I think now’s the time you should have it.”

We met up at a little diner the next day. She brought a shoebox wrapped in floral paper, yellowed and frayed at the edges. Inside were old letters, a mixtape, two faded Polaroids, and a small jewelry pouch with a pair of simple opal studs—my birthstone.

The letters were addressed to “My Sweet Maika.”

They were written in my mom’s looping, slightly messy handwriting. Dated over a period of a year, around the time I’d gone off to college.

I read one at the diner. Just one.

In it, Mom wrote:

“If you’re reading this, I’m probably gone. Not because I wanted to be, but because life doesn’t always wait. I hope your heart stays big. I hope you stand up for what’s right, even when your voice shakes. And baby… don’t let anyone cheapen what’s sacred to you. You know what matters. Hold your ground.”

I cried again. Right there. Next to my half-eaten eggs and soggy toast. Lianne just held my hand.

That night, I drove back to my dad’s house. Not to fight. But to reclaim something.

He wasn’t home, but Sarah was. She answered the door in a yoga set, looking surprised to see me.

I walked past her and went straight to the guest room closet, where I’d seen the dress last.

It was still there, hanging in a garment bag. I unzipped it, checked it for damage. Still smelled like cedar and something faintly floral—Mom’s old perfume.

Sarah stood in the doorway. “You can’t take that. It’s for the wedding.”

I turned and said, calmly, “It’s mine. And it was never yours to touch.”

“You can’t just—”

“I am just,” I said. “You want to get married? Fine. Wear your own damn dress.”

Then I left.

A week went by. No one called. I assumed they were icing me out.

Then, two nights before the wedding, I got a text from my dad. Just a photo.

It was of him and me, from when I was about six. I was sitting on his shoulders, wearing a paper crown. He was grinning.

Underneath, he wrote:
“You’re right. I forgot who I was. Thank you for reminding me.”

I didn’t go to the wedding. But apparently, it almost didn’t happen.

My cousin Althea was there. She told me that the morning of the ceremony, my dad showed up at the venue alone, hours early. He sat in the empty chapel and cried for over thirty minutes. Then he asked to speak to Sarah privately. No one knows exactly what was said.

But she didn’t wear the dress. She wore some modern thing with feathers on the sleeves.

And I heard from Althea that the vibe was… tense.

A month later, my dad came to visit me.

We sat on the porch, sipping tea. He looked smaller somehow. Not weak—just humbled.

“I got swept up,” he said. “It felt good to feel young again. Like maybe I wasn’t done yet.”

“You’re not done,” I said. “But you don’t have to erase her to keep living.”

He nodded. “She’d be proud of you.”

“Would she be proud of you?” I asked.

He looked down. “Not then. But maybe now.”

I gave him one of the opal earrings from the pouch. Told him Mom left it behind for me. He held it like it was gold.

Sarah and him lasted about six more months.

Turns out, once the wedding was over, the sparkle wore off. She wanted to travel more. He wanted to garden and maybe adopt a dog. It didn’t end in a big blow-up. Just a mutual drift.

And in the spring, he brought over two bags of Mom’s old things from the attic. He said, “You’ll know what to keep.”

I kept the dress. The earrings. The letters. The silly paper crown from the photo.

Sometimes, letting go doesn’t mean forgetting. It means honoring what shaped you—without letting anyone cheapen it.

So yeah, I guess I was selfish.
But I was selfish in the exact way my mom taught me to be.

Protect what matters. Even when your voice shakes.

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