Before I got married, I talked to my mom about how her and my dad had stayed so happy for so long. Without even hesitating she said, “Don’t let the family dog outdo you.” I didn’t know what that meant, but she told me, “No matter how bad the day is, your dad walks in the door and that dog wags his tail like he’s been waiting all day just to see him. Licks his hand, brings him a slipper. Meanwhile, some days, I barely even look up.”

I laughed. “So you’re saying I should lick Alex’s hand and bring him a slipper?”

“No,” she said, smiling, “I’m saying don’t forget to be glad he’s home.”

It stuck with me more than I expected. I even wrote it on a sticky note and put it in my bathroom drawer. First year of marriage, I’d see that note every day. Some days I lived by it. Other days, I didn’t.

Our first year was a mix of joy and adjustment. We learned quickly that love alone didn’t mean we always got along. I liked quiet mornings with coffee and news, he liked upbeat music and pancakes. I liked everything in its place, he left socks around like confetti.

But we found our rhythm. We figured out how to laugh instead of snap. And we always—always—said goodnight with a kiss, even if it came after a long, silent standoff.

By year three, we had a little rescue dog named Copper. Golden fur, eyes too big for his head, and a tail that never stopped wagging. He adored Alex. Every single day, when Alex got home from work, Copper lost his mind with joy. Barked, spun in circles, brought him whatever sock or toy was nearby.

And I thought about what my mom had said. Some days, I’d be elbows deep in dishes or halfway through emails, and I wouldn’t even look up when Alex came home. Copper made him feel like a king. And me? Some days I was just… there.

So I tried. I really did. I started greeting him at the door with a smile, a hug, sometimes just a “Hey, babe!” from the hallway. It didn’t seem like much, but his face lit up a little more every time. It was easy to forget how far little gestures could go.

But life has a way of piling on.

By year five, Alex had lost his job at the architecture firm. Downsizing, they said. He didn’t say much the day it happened. Just walked in, set his bag down, and sat on the couch with his head in his hands. Copper sat beside him, silent, just resting his chin on Alex’s knee.

I remember making dinner that night and watching him from the kitchen. Something about the way his shoulders slumped—it hit me hard. So I turned the stove off, walked over, and sat beside him. I didn’t have advice. I didn’t know what to say. But I put my hand on his back and told him we’d figure it out. And we did.

He took on freelance projects. We cut back on everything. I sold some of my vintage clothes online. We learned to stretch meals, make do, and laugh about things we couldn’t change.

But stress has a way of creeping in.

We fought more. We got short with each other. Some weeks it felt like we were roommates, not lovers. We’d sit on opposite ends of the couch, both scrolling, both pretending not to notice the space between us.

One night, after an especially dumb argument about whether we should cancel internet to save money, I found myself sleeping on the couch. Copper curled beside me, tail thumping against the cushion like he was trying to cheer me up.

I stared at the ceiling, thinking about my mom’s words. “Don’t let the family dog outdo you.” Copper hadn’t changed. He was still loyal. Still loving. Still thrilled every time one of us entered the room.

What was I doing?

The next morning, I made us pancakes. I sat beside Alex and apologized. He did too. We both knew it wasn’t about the internet. It was about fear. About uncertainty. About feeling like we were drowning and neither of us had a life raft.

A few months later, he got a stable job again. Not as fancy, not as high-paying. But stable. Things calmed. Slowly, we breathed easier.

Year six, we bought our first home. Small, a bit run-down, but ours. We painted it ourselves, spent Saturdays fixing shelves, planting a garden, arguing about curtain colors. We made it a home.

By then, our little rituals were sacred. Sunday coffee runs. Friday movie nights. The way he’d always steal bites from my plate even though I always told him not to.

But I started getting busier. I’d taken a promotion at work, which meant longer hours. Alex was working too, but my time seemed constantly pulled in five directions. There were weeks I barely saw him awake. I’d come home, exhausted, scarf down dinner, and fall asleep watching TV.

I missed him. But I didn’t know how to slow down.

One Friday, I got home late again. I walked in, dropped my bag, and saw a Post-it on the fridge.

“Dinner in the oven. I love you. Also, Copper missed you today.”

It made my eyes sting a little. I sat on the kitchen floor with Copper, just petting him, thinking about how easy it was to forget the things that matter most when life got loud.

I reheated dinner. It was lasagna—his mom’s recipe, the one he’d learned just for me. I texted him a photo of the empty plate with a heart. He sent back a smile.

We were okay. But we were distant.

So I planned a weekend getaway. Just us. No phones, no emails. Just a cabin in the woods and each other. We talked like we used to. Laughed. Reconnected.

I told him I missed us. He said he did too.

We made a pact—date nights every week, no matter what. Even if it was just takeout on the porch. We kept that promise for almost a year.

And then, something shifted.

It was subtle at first. He seemed quieter. Tired. Said he wasn’t sleeping well. Brushed it off.

Then came the headaches. The ones he said were “just stress.” But they didn’t go away.

He finally saw a doctor.

MRI. Bloodwork. Follow-up calls.

I remember the look on his face when he came home that day. I knew before he said a word. He sat on the edge of the bed and whispered, “It’s not good.”

It was a tumor. Low-grade, but in a tricky spot. They’d operate. It was risky.

I felt like the floor gave out.

But we faced it together. Surgery was scheduled. I didn’t leave his side for a second.

He pulled through.

Recovery was slow. Painful. Frustrating. But he kept his humor. Kept his stubbornness. And I kept being glad—so, so glad—every time I walked in the room and saw his eyes open.

Copper never left him. Slept on his feet, followed him everywhere. That dog was a healer in his own quiet way.

A year later, we got the all-clear. No more signs of tumor. Life handed us a second chance, and we took it.

We traveled. We danced in the kitchen. We made dumb videos of Copper and sent them to our parents.

We held hands more.

Year ten, we threw a backyard party. Friends, family, laughter. Someone asked us, “What’s your secret?”

Alex grinned and said, “I just try to love her the way Copper loves me.”

Everyone laughed. But I knew it wasn’t a joke.

That dog, that silly golden blur of love, had taught us more about devotion than any book ever could.

A few months later, Copper passed away. Old age. Peacefully, in his sleep.

We cried like children.

We buried him under the maple tree in the backyard. Planted wildflowers around his little grave. Put up a tiny sign that said, “Best Boy.”

It was harder than I expected. The silence without him was loud. But we leaned on each other.

And then something happened.

One Sunday morning, I found Alex in the garage, building something. A small wooden bench. I asked what it was for.

“I thought we could sit out there sometimes,” he said, nodding toward the maple tree. “Remember him. And remind ourselves.”

I didn’t need to ask what he meant.

That weekend, we sat on that bench. We watched the sun go down. He reached for my hand and said, “I still think about that thing your mom said.”

I smiled. “Me too.”

And I realized that she hadn’t just been talking about dogs or greetings. She was talking about presence. About love that shows up. Every day. Even when it’s hard.

Because marriage isn’t built on grand gestures or perfect timing. It’s built on small choices. On the effort to say, “I’m glad you’re here,” in a hundred different ways.

Today, we’re at year twelve. We’ve got a new pup now—Willow. She’s different. Calmer. But still wags her tail like we’re the best part of her day.

And we try, every day, to be that for each other too.

If I could go back and tell my younger self one thing, it would be this: Don’t let life dull your kindness. Don’t let stress steal your softness. And don’t ever let the family dog outlove you.

Because in the end, love isn’t about words. It’s about how you come home.

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