In an exclusive interview, Allison Holker Boss discusses her healing path and finding a new purpose after the untimely death of her loving husband, Stephen “tWitch” Boss. Allison has found peace in supporting those silently suffering from their issues four months after his tragic demise.
Allison remembers spending time in the kitchen with Stephen after a long day’s work, cooking supper together, as one of the simple pleasures they shared.
She remembers him affectionately touching her back as she went by and how the dinner table chats were full of laughter. Their love was like a perfectly orchestrated ballet that resonated throughout their home.
The untimely passing of the legendary DJ turned executive producer of the Ellen DeGeneres Show devastated Allison, now 35, and their loved ones.
Stephen had been fighting his own internal battles quietly, unbeknownst to many. “No one had any idea he was low,” Allison says. He didn’t want anyone to find out. “He desired to be Superman and the protector of all.”
Allison has struggled to reconcile the sharp contrast between the beautiful life they had created and the suffering Stephen must have faced alone. She is dealing with many emotions, including sadness, disappointment, love, and rage.
Nonetheless, she is driven by a strong sense of purpose as she tries to find inner peace. “Stephen brought so much joy to this world, and he deserves to be remembered as the beautiful man he was,” she says.
Allison launched the Move with Kindness Foundation earlier this year to honor Stephen’s memory, focusing on helping mental health programs.
She emphasizes the need to reach out to others while feeling down or sad, emphasizing that there are individuals who will regard us as a guiding light even in our darkest moments.
Allison and Stephen have always worked together to spread optimism and positivity through their projects. She reveals her first confusion about finding her new purpose after his death.
She recalls speaking with her friend Andy Grammer about her fears about living out her purpose of love and joy, which had always been connected with her family. Andy’s encouraging comments struck a deep chord within her. He reminded her that her purpose had not changed but had grown in depth and complexity.
“It just looks different now, and it has a little more depth to it,” he explained. Allison treasures this talk because it verifies her intuitive understanding and gives her the impetus to move forward.
“I’ve had so many individuals reach out to me, especially men, saying how much it affected them because they had no idea how much they were holding on to and not expressing,” she adds.
“I found that to be a lot to hold onto at first, but then I realized I want people to feel safe talking to me, to open up, and to understand that we have to support each other in these moments.”
Allison acknowledges her trauma’s toll on her and describes how it showed physically in the weeks following Stephen’s death. The strain of attempting to aid herself, her children, friends, and relatives had grown heavier.
She found peace in cold plunging and made it a part of her daily regimen. This practice has not only assisted her in releasing the overwhelming stress but has also benefited her spiritual and mental well-being.
The loss of Stephen as the family’s backbone has created a new relationship for Allison and her children based on open communication and vulnerability.
Allison emphasizes the necessity of teaching her children and herself that feeling angry or sad does not automatically make them horrible people.
