When our second daughter was born, I asked my mom, who’s a professional nurse, to help out. She quit her job to take care of our kids while we worked, and I insisted we pay her. We could afford it ($3,000), and it was cheaper than any other option, but my husband grumbled.

He resented every dollar we gave her. Once, he said to her, “You don’t need that much money! Looking after your own grandkids is a privilege you should be grateful for.”

Then he did the unthinkable—he fired her.

I was at work when it happened. My mom was feeding our youngest when he walked in and told her, “We’ve decided it’s best for you to, uh, move on.” When she asked why, he said, “It’s just… honestly, daycare is more cost-effective.”

More. Cost. Effective.

But here’s the thing: My husband wasn’t trying to save money for our family. He just didn’t want my mom getting “so much” of OUR money, of HIS money. He saw her earnings as a personal loss, not a household expense.

By the time I got home, she was gone—hurt and humiliated. And I was furious.

So I came up with a plan.

First, I called around for daycare prices in our area. The cheapest reputable daycare center? $4,200 a month, with a waitlist. The ones with immediate availability? Over $5,000. Not to mention the added fees for late pickups, sick days, and holidays.

I sat my husband down that night. “You wanted to be cost-effective? Great. Here’s what daycare costs.”

His face paled. “That much? That’s insane!”

“Yup. So, unless you want to quit your job and watch them yourself, we need to pay someone. And before you say anything, my mom was a bargain.”

He groaned, rubbing his temples. “I didn’t realize it was that expensive.”

I wasn’t done yet.

“Oh, and since daycare doesn’t handle night shifts, sick days, or weekends, we’ll need a backup sitter. Maybe a nanny? That’ll be another couple thousand a month.”

His jaw tightened. “We can’t afford that.”

“Well, we could afford Mom,” I reminded him. “But you fired her. So now we get to live with your decision.”

The next morning, I dropped the kids off at a drop-in daycare that charged by the hour—a temporary solution until we figured something else out. That night, I handed him the bill.

$380.

“For one day?” He nearly choked.

“One. Day. And guess what? I had to leave work early because they close at six. That meant I lost hours, which means a smaller paycheck. Hope your ‘cost-effective’ decision was worth it.”

He finally cracked. “Okay, okay! Maybe I overreacted. Can we ask your mom to come back?”

I crossed my arms. “Why would she? You fired her. You insulted her. You made her feel like she was taking advantage of us when she was literally saving us thousands.”

He looked down, guilt creeping into his expression. “I’ll apologize.”

“Not good enough. You need to understand something: childcare is work. Hard work. My mom may love our kids, but that doesn’t mean she should do it for free.”

He nodded. “You’re right. I was being selfish.”

Damn right, he was.

I called my mom, and at first, she refused. She wasn’t interested in being undervalued again. But after my husband personally apologized and offered to pay her what she was truly worth—including a raise—she agreed to return.

This time, my husband showed gratitude. He thanked her. He acknowledged how much she was helping. And he never complained about the payments again.

The lesson? Childcare isn’t free, even if it’s done by family. Labor deserves respect. And sometimes, the only way to prove a point is to let someone feel the weight of their own bad decisions.

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